|Quiet:The Power of Introverts in a World that Can't Stop Talking|
A few months ago a friend sent me a links to this TED Talk by Susan Cain and this quiz at Psychology Today. I took quiz (Are You an Introvert or an Extrovert and Why it Matters) and was shocked to be told that I am an introvert. Really? Me, the queen of social? I think not. Then, I listened to Susan Cain's talk and thought "maybe". Then I read her terrific book and thought "maybe" again.
Yes it is true that I thoroughly enjoy time with my friends, but it is also true that I vastly prefer smaller or, even better, one on one events. Over the years, I have left several knitting groups because they have gotten too big. As soon as a group gets big enough to support several conversations at once, I start feeling overwhelmed rather than comforted. My children will tell you that I get confused and overwhelmed in noisy or crowded situations. I love a day at Disney, but need absolute quiet when I get home to recover. What kind of person needs to recover from a fun outing? Apparently, introverts do.
I really do think that I fall in the ambivert category (possessing characteristics and/or needs common to both introverts & extroverts). Still, reading this book did change how I see myself. When I recommended it to my youngest son, I told him that he would see himself in it, and that he would like what he sees. That is what it did for me. I feel decidedly less damaged than I used to. My need to retreat is no longer odd in my eyes but just a normal part of who I am.